tenth divorce-a-versary

Dec. 30th, 2025 11:05 am
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Ten years ago today my divorce was final. Naturally, I texted Ex:

SistaWendy: Happy tenth divorce-a-versary?
Ex: Back at you.
SW: ♥

If you find that can't have a good marriage with someone, a civilized divorce is the next best thing. Go us.

I might celebrate alone with pho, Chinese, or Korean; I need to hit the supermarket down the hill.

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Dec. 30th, 2025 01:37 pm
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23. When was the last time you felt lucky? When my real estate agent told me he could arrange someone to clear out the house and do a thorough cleaning after I'd moved out.

24. When did you first realize that life is short? Many times over the last couple of years.
25. What is the most insensitive thing a person can do? Being insensitive can vary depending on the people involved and the situation, so it's pretty much impossible to say that one particular piece of insensitivity is the most insensitive possible.

26. What can someone do to grab your attention? Bump into me.

27. What do you usually think about on your drive home from work? I don't have a job to drive to or from. I don't remember what I used to think about when I did.

28. What’s one downside of the modern day world? The fact that someone like Trump was able to get himself elected as the president of the US.

29. What simple fact do you wish more people understood? Words have consequences.

30. If you could do it all over again, would you change anything? There are things I wish had happened differently, but who's to say that my changing anything would have led to better outcomes?

2025.12.30

Dec. 30th, 2025 10:15 am
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Iceland has hottest Christmas Eve ever with temperature of 19.8C recorded
Meteorological office reports high temperatures across country and record measured at Seyðisfjörður in east
Helena Horton Environment reporter
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/dec/30/iceland-record-temperatures-christmas-eve-met-office-seyisfjorur

Top 5 local news stories of 2025: Feeding Our Future, immigration and fraud
Aimee Bock was convicted at trial this year, immigration detainees said they’re being held in detention for long periods of time and Minneapolis attempts to enforce police reforms.
by Joey Peters
https://sahanjournal.com/news/top-5-local-news-stories-2025-feeding-our-future-immigration/

Five charts that explain the global economic outlook for 2026
Inflation is predicted to cool but uncertainty over AI-driven growth and trade policy poses risks in the year ahead
Richard Partington Senior economics correspondent
https://www.theguardian.com/business/2025/dec/30/five-charts-that-explain-the-global-economic-outlook-for-2026

Kara Swisher and Scott Galloway predict: https://youtu.be/98aQh7e6qh0 Read more... )

Medieval 'Cussing' in the Middle East

Dec. 30th, 2025 05:04 pm
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Hello! I’ve got a rather niche one particularly for Arabic speakers/historians - my writing is set in the medieval crusading period, where European/Catholic individuals would often use expressions of annoyance/surprise/exasperation that are largely religious-based, such as ‘oh sweet Christ’, 'dear God', ‘Christ’s bones’, ‘Saint Jude’s eyes’ etc etc. (One can then make as crude as you like while focusing a lot around divine/saintly body parts!).

I also have a few Levantine Arab Christian characters with mixed Arab/European heritage and I'm wondering if the above sort of religious-based swearing might have been used also in the Levant (particularly if they've taken some verbal influence from their European father), or if would come across as jarring to use these more western-associated idioms in a Middle Eastern setting?

Also: I've done some research around Arabic idioms already, but it would also be great to hear of any Arabic phrases (either in Arabic or transliterated) of annoyance or surprise similar to 'oh Christ' or 'for God's sake' that might be used? (I know ‘ya Allah’ is one such phrase but I’m trying to diversify) Similarly, any other recommendations of non-religious exclamations (of the ‘damn, bugger, blast’ varieties) would be very helpful!
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I didn't participate in Yuletide this year, but I did write a gift for a friend:

Ghost of Christmas Fork-In-The-Road for [archiveofourown.org profile] springbeetle, Hermitcraft/Life Series
2.6k, gen, Grian&Grian, Hermitcraft s11 / Nice Life crossover
Summary: What if there were two Grians, one an admin who organizes death games and the other a prankster and builder on a mostly-vanilla server, and one of them put the other in a cage.
Notes: I had a lot of fun with this. I wish I had had space for an appearance by trivia bot (maybe could have figured something out if I had more time) but that just has to be an AU for if Hermitcraft Grian arrived a little earlier.

Life series seasons I have now written fic for:Read more... )

This icon is doubly appropriate

Dec. 30th, 2025 03:14 pm
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Firstly:

So, farewell then, PSC, whose advice to the sexually-bothered (rather than the lovelorn) has so oft provided fodder to [personal profile] oursinial musings. Guardian G2 today includes 23 of the best Sexual Healing columns

Not sure if they are The Greatest Hits rather than molto tipico of the kind of thing she addressed: in particular we note (as she stresses in the interview about the lessons learnt over 10 years of agony-aunting):

The female orgasm is still a mystery to some people
I’m still getting questions that show me people continue to think that the only “correct” type of female orgasm is one that’s purely vaginal and doesn’t involve the clitoris. For people to still think that, or to have that as the ideal, is extraordinary, but there it is. They just haven’t had the education to understand otherwise.

There is a waterspout off Portland Bill (where Marie Stopes' ashes were scattered). Volumes of the Kinsey Report on the Human Female are spontaneously falling off library shelves. The shade of Shere Hite is gibbering and wailing.

We also note the recurrent MenZ B Terribly Poor Stuff theme, what with the one who appears to regard his wife's bisexuality as a USP meaning *3SOMES* and two or three where one feels she did not interrogate sufficiently whether the male querent was actually gratifying his female partner before offering reassurance/solution e.g. 'My stunning wife makes no effort with our sex life' where we should like to know precisely what effort he is putting in, ahem.

However, there are also some of the wilder shores there.

***

Secondly, and could we have a big AWWWW for this: David Attenborough seeks out London’s hidden wildlife:

Filming the wildlife of London requires an intrepid, agile presenter, willing to lie on damp grass after dark to encounter hedgehogs, scale heights to hold a peregrine falcon chick, and stake out a Tottenham allotment to get within touching distance of wary wild foxes.
Step forward Sir David Attenborough, who spent his 100th summer seeking out the hidden nature of his home city for an unusually personal and intimate BBC documentary.

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I still owe my future self a write-up of my last visit to Buffalo last summer. Maybe someday.

I am directing a show, and it's going great. Here's the elevator pitch: so you know how Shakespeare didn't make up Romeo and Juliet, but the plot was from an older Italian source? Well, meanwhile in Spain the very prolific playwright Lope de Vega found that same source, and went "this is cool, I'll write a play... I'll make it a comedy!" So the result is so familiar but at the same time so different as the writers obviously looked at the same plot points and made very different choices. Like, what if Juliet drank that potion, but actually didn't know what she just drank? And what if Romeo had a wacky sidekick, and also a competent messenger?

Meanwhile, restaurants:

Thai At Laurel is located in that large "town center" shopping complex with the Regal in it. We were recommended it as a answer to the question "what restaurant in Laurel is good quality and feels nice to sit in for meeting with out-of-town family", it fulfilled that need. The food was of excellent quality - we ordered half-dozen different things for our large party, and all came well-reviewed. We split examples of all the desserts, too, and those were likewise great. The prices were higher than I'd expect from Thai food. But, I'd say, worth it for an occasion like that.

Meanwhile after a long conversion from a former Panda Express, Yu Noodles finally opened in Columbia, and we hit them in their soft-open week. They were hopping - we got sat at a 4-person table with another couple on the other end. Almost immediately a rushed-looking waiter with a tablet arrived at the table and looked expectantly, and sternly enough that we rattled off a trio of dumpling orders in lieu of asking questions about any of the items we were less sure of. They arrived in due course; shrimp dumplings were ok, chicken soup dumplings were better than at Shimiaodao (which, faint praise, because Shimiaodao had a better selection so it wins), and chicken mushroom dumplings that were not as good. I was pleased to finish expediently and clear out as rapidly as possible. For a regional chain with fewer than a dozen MD and VA locations, they sure felt very chain-like.

Also a disappointment was Pho Live which opened in Columbia where the excellent Tai Chi poke and ramen was, near Target. Spouse's pho was fine I guess, I'm not a very pho person and can't compare, but it hit the spot for a blustery day. But the summer rolls appetizer, listed as "Shrimp, lettuce wrapped in rice paper served with peanut sauce", contained undocumented pork. And my attempt at an entree with the request of no onions and assurance that they got it when I asked to double-check came with a stratum of onions, so I asked to just let us take the pho to go so we could get out. (They normally charge for a take-out container, but in this case waived the fee.) We were there their opening week, so perhaps they will improve, but I will continue to advocate for An Loi when my companions want good pho and I want excellent Vietnamese that's not pho.

For Christmas - having, over the pandemic, abandoned the notion of Chinese food, since it appears everyone realized that it's a great plan and incorporated that into their actual Christmas celebrations - the same foodie friends who lead us to discover Ugane, suggested Kim Bob Na Ra, another Korean street food-themed place, which turned out to be run by the same owners. Our party included a pair of omnivores, a vegetarian, and a handful of pork-avoiders one of whom can't handle spice; there were ample choices to order family-style with everyone having a few things to choose from. We made several modifications (like, two orders of veggie kim bap, but one of them without the crab stick, and bibimbap with meat on the side so the vegetarian could have it and I could have the meat); all came out correctly. Cold soy-and-sesame noodles were successfully un-spicied. Fried seaweed rolls with glass noodles were warm and surprisingly addictive. Evidently I don't like tuna kimbap, but the rest of the table did. All in all, a good outing.... but eater beware, the Vegetarian markings stand for "vegetarian option available" rather than "is vegetarian by default", so remember to ask for the modifications if needed.
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Posted by Katherine J. Wu

For all of the political chaos that American science endured in 2025, aspects of this country’s research enterprise made it through somewhat … okay. The Trump administration terminated billions of dollars in research grants; judges intervened to help reinstate thousands of those contracts. The administration threatened to cut funding to a number of universities; several have struck deals that preserved that money. After the White House proposed slashing the National Institutes of Health’s $48 billion budget, Congress pledged to maintain it. And although some researchers have left the country, far more have remained. Despite these disruptions, many researchers will also remember 2025 as the year when personalized gene therapy helped treat a six-month-old baby, or when the Vera C. Rubin Observatory released its first glimpse of the star-studded night sky.

Science did lose out this year, though, in ways that researchers are still struggling to tabulate. Some of those losses are straightforward: Since the beginning of 2025, “all, or nearly all, federal agencies that supported research in some way have decreased the size of their research footprint,” Scott Delaney, an epidemiologist who has been tracking the federal funding cuts to science, told me. Less funding means less science can be done and fewer discoveries will be made. The deeper cut may be to the trust researchers had in the federal government as a stable partner in the pursuit of knowledge. This means the country’s appetite for bold exploration, which the compact between science and government supported for decades, may be gone, too—leaving in its place more timid, short-term thinking.

In an email, Andrew Nixon, the deputy assistant secretary for media relations at the Department of Health and Human Services, which oversees the NIH, disputed that assertion, writing, “The Biden administration politicized NIH funding through DEI-driven agendas; this administration is restoring rigor, merit, and public trust by prioritizing evidence-based research with real health impact while continuing to support early-career scientists.”

Science has always required creativity—people asking and pursuing questions in ways that have never been attempted before, in the hope that some of that work might produce something new. At its most dramatic, the results can be transformative: In the early 1900s, the Wright brothers drew inspiration from birds’ flight mechanics to launch their first airplanes; more recently, scientists have found ways to genetically engineer a person’s own immune cells to kill off cancer. Even in more routine discoveries, nothing quite matches the excitement of being the first to capture a piece of reality. I remember, as a graduate student, cloning my first bacterial mutant while trying to understand a gene important for growth. I knew that the microscopic creature I had built would never yield a drug or save a life. But in the brief moment in which I plucked a colony from an agar plate and swirled it into a warm, sugar-rich broth, I held a form of life that had never existed before—and that I had made in pursuit of a question that, as far as I knew, no one else had asked.

Pursuing scientific creativity can be resource intensive, requiring large teams of researchers to spend millions of dollars across decades to investigate complex questions. Up until very recently, the federal government was eager to underwrite that process. Since the end of the Second World War, it has poured money into basic research, establishing a kind of social contract with scientists, of funds in exchange for innovation. Support from the government “allowed the free play of scientific genius,” Nancy Tomes, a historian of medicine at Stony Brook University, told me.

The investment has paid dividends. One oft-cited statistic puts the success of scientific funding in economic terms: Every dollar invested in research and development in the United States is estimated to return at least $5. Another points to the fact that more than 99 percent of the drugs approved by the FDA from 2010 to 2019 were at least partly supported by NIH funds. These things are true—but they also obscure the years or even decades of meandering and experimentation that scientists must take to reach those results. CRISPR gene-editing technology began as basic research into the structure of bacterial genomes; the discovery of GLP-1 weight-loss drugs depended on scientists in the late ’70s and ’80s tinkering with fish cells. The Trump administration has defunded research with more obvious near-term goals—work on mRNA vaccines to combat the next flu pandemic, for instance—but also science that expands knowledge that we don’t yet have an application for (if one even exists). It has also proposed major cuts to NASA that could doom an already troubled mission to return brand-new mineral samples from the surface of Mars, which might have told us more about life in this universe, or nothing much at all.

Outside of the most obvious effects of grant terminations—salary cuts, forced layoffs, halted studies—the Trump administration’s attacks on science have limited the horizons that scientists in the U.S. are looking toward. The administration has made clear that it no longer intends to sponsor research into certain subjects, including transgender health and HIV. Even researchers who haven’t had grants terminated this year or who work on less politically volatile subjects are struggling to conceptualize their scientific futures, as canceled grant-review meetings and lists of banned words hamper the normal review process. The NIH is also switching up its funding model to one that will decrease the number of scientific projects and people it will bankroll. Many scientists are hesitant to hire more staff or start new projects that rely on expensive materials. Some have started to seek funds from pharmaceutical companies or foundations, which tend to offer smaller and shorter-term agreements, trained more closely on projects with potential profit.

All of this nudges scientists into a defensive posture. They’re compressing the size of their studies or dropping the most ambitious aspects of their projects. Collaborations between research groups have broken down too, as some scientists who have been relatively insulated from the administration’s cuts have terminated their partnerships with defunded scientists—including at Harvard, where Delaney worked as a research scientist until September—to protect their own interests. “The human thing to do is to look inward and to kind of take care of yourself first,” Delaney told me. Instability and fear have made the research system, already sometimes prone to siloing, even more fragmented. The administration “took two of the best assets that the U.S. scientific enterprise has—the capacity to think long, and the capacity to collaborate—and we screwed them up at the same time,” Delaney said. Several scientists told me that the current funding environment has prompted them to consider early retirement—in many cases, shutting down the labs they have run for decades.


Some of the experiments that scientists shelved this year could still be done at later dates. But the new instability of American science may also be driving away the people necessary to power that future work. Several universities have been forced to downsize Ph.D. programs; the Trump administration’s anti-immigration policies have made many international researchers fearful of their status at universities. And as the administration continues to dismiss the importance of DEI programs, many young scientists from diverse backgrounds have told me they’re questioning whether they will be welcomed into academia. Under the Trump administration, the scope of American science is simply smaller: “When you shrink funding, you’re going to increase conservatism,” C. Brandon Ogbunu, a computational biologist at Yale University, told me. Competition and scarcity can breed innovation in science. But often, Ogbunu said, people forget that “comfort and security are key parts of innovation, too.”

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Since my usual inspirational blond twink hero is currently pursuing an alternate career path as a genocidal glam rocker, I have to revert to my default sunshine boy.

So, I love that the comics have played up that Luke Skywalker is trusting and optimistic, but not a completely clueless idiot.

He trusts, and he believes in the inherent goodness of people, but he's not entirely gullible.

Case in point )

A Reckoning of Swords 0

Dec. 30th, 2025 08:09 am
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Is there anyone around who does Fanlore stuff that would mind editing a factually incorrect statement on my page and fixing a link? I'd do it myself but that's probably a guideline/etiquette breach.

Update

Dec. 30th, 2025 11:54 pm
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Hi everyone. Sorry I've fallen off the posting again.

Here are some Yuletide recs:

Imperial Radch/Translation State - Ann Leckie: a perfect preservation (so we’ll never fall apart). If you haven't read Translation State yet, then I strongly recommend not reading this fic until you've read canon. Otherwise, recommended. (I was the recipient.)

The Lottery - Shirley Jackson/The New Yorker RPF: Why one small American town won’t stop stoning its residents to death

Goose of Soulmate Enforcement trope/Original Fic: #footscraygoose (Especially recommended for people from Melbourne)

Prophet - Sin Blaché & Helen Macdonald: Wrong Choice

The Raven Tower - Ann Leckie: k2, p2, yo, k2tog

Columbo, Princess Bride (1987)
The Princess Murdered

France's language watchdog has told government officials to use French fetish terms... (News Satire): Les immortels au service de la petite mort

Chalion/Les Mis: The Truth that Once Was Spoken

Just one thing: 30 December 2025

Dec. 30th, 2025 06:35 am
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It's challenge time!

Comment with Just One Thing you've accomplished in the last 24 hours or so. It doesn't have to be a hard thing, or even a thing that you think is particularly awesome. Just a thing that you did.

Feel free to share more than one thing if you're feeling particularly accomplished!

Extra credit: find someone in the comments and give them props for what they achieved!

Nothing is too big, too small, too strange or too cryptic. And in case you'd rather do this in private, anonymous comments are screened. I will only unscreen if you ask me to.

Go!

Mudlarking 76 - Grant's Quay Wharf

Dec. 30th, 2025 11:23 am
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A lunchtime lark and the foreshore was full of tourists.

One man was showing his small daughter how you should scrape the top level off, in an area where no surface disturbance is allowed. That annoyed me.

Anyway, apart from the tourists, there was one other mudlark there that lunchtime, wearing wellies, mostly in the mud.

I didn't find a lot. A chunk of a John Maddock plate, possibly from between 1906 and 1927. I don’t usually find sherds with words on in this area. A bit of a plastic flower. A bit of glass that said 72 on it. A piece of Staffordshire style slipware, some bits of Bellarmine. I was happy to find a button.

It was near to low tide so I walked underneath Grant’s Quay Wharf. It's a bit dark under there so more difficult to mudlark but it feels like you're somewhere secret when you're amongst the wooden struts.

Mudlarking finds - 76

Underneath Grant’s Quay Wharf

(You need a permit to search or mudlark on the Thames foreshore.)
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It's Tuesday! We survived a Monday of a short week! We were actually really busy at work. I took 49 calls, and I was also doing other things, so it definitely picked up from last week. The people were mostly nice, but I swear that 20 of those calls were people calling to see if we had cancellations this week. The "But mah deductible" calls have begun in earnest.

By the time I finished for the day, I was very tired. Fortunately, Jess made jambalaya for dinner. It's their speciality, though at the house, we did it in the crock pot. It's 500 times better in the pan, may I say. Sautéing the mirepoix helps develop flavors a lot. We made it easy on them, and just ordered the diced mirepoix from Walmart, so all they had to cut up was the peppers. The recipe they used didn't have tomatoes of any kind, so they added a can of tomato sauce, and adjusted the liquid accordingly. It turned out SO well. I had two helpings! Jess did a good job.

Tonight will be BBQ short ribs, which should be tasty.

I have branched out in my studies to include the ship we're scheduled to go on in 2027 as well. They're sister ships, but the Rotterdam (2027) is a little newer, and I think has the teen club that opens up to everyone after 6. I'm going to play skeeball on the cruise ship.

We're under 130 days til the Koningsdam, and I'm very excited. Every time we pass another multiple of 10, it gives me a kick. When it goes down into the double digits, I'll be bouncing. It's still 5 months away, but it's creeping closer.

I'm still obsessing a little bit, making sure we have everything we need for it. Right now, I'm on the search for a dress for the vow renewal ceremony. After consideration, I decided that with all the work I'd need to do to the Siriano dress to make it fit, and be comfortable, it would just be a new dress. I'd need it hemmed, fitted, and I want sleeves to cover a bra, plus I hate the neckline and would need that changed. It would just be a lot. And I don't know that I have that much patience. I liked the color and some of the style, which is why I bought it, but it just isn't going to work.

I had ordered a dress from Ever-Pretty in their largest size. The measurements looked good, but when it arrived, I could barely get it over my head unzipped. I couldn't get my arms into it. I felt like a total whale, and felt moderately bad about myself for a good chunk of the afternoon and evening.

I've got two dresses coming from Torrid, a green long sleeve mini (I'm short, so the mini's tend to hit me mid to lower knee) and a black mini flecked with gold. I'm not sure either is the dress, but we'll see. I kind of envisioned a longer dress, but I do really like the silhouette of these. The green is a tie front, which usually makes my boobs look mighty, and the other is a skater dress, which I've always enjoyed. Torrid usually fits me really well, so they might not require any tailoring. I've also got a few dresses for dinner that I really like, including one for the Holland America Orange Party, which is a celebration of their Dutch heritage. I also have a sensible gray one for regular dinner. I plan to dress up a little bit for dinner. Nothing fancy, just a pretty dress or skirt.

Packing for Alaska is difficult, since in May, you never know what temp you're getting. Could be 60 (yes please), could be 40 or lower. We'll see what the weather says when it gets a little closer. Definitely taking my fleece and raincoat--we'll see if the heavy coat is needed. We have free laundry on the boat, so I don't need to pack a ton. Enough for 5-6 days should do it. Lots of leggings. Maybe fleece leggings. Night gowns, a mixture of tops, long and short sleeve. My best bras, and of course, underwear like I plan to shit myself twice a day. lol. I always overpack underwear.

I need it to be under 50lbs, with room for some souvenirs. Though I'm just going to get a few things. A magnet from each port, maybe some sort of native art, and little gifts for a few friends. I think between the four of us, we should be able to distribute our treasures between the suitcases without going over the limit. Though if one of us does, I'll pay the fee. Not going to get my knickers in a twist.

My suitcase looks huge anyway, so I think I'll be okay under 50. I may take a pair of jeans, just to have something other than leggings if I want it. (I probably won't want them.) A pair of flats for dressing up and a pair of hiking boots, though I may wear the boots for the flight. Tennis shoes will take up less room. That's about it for me. Oh wait, and slippers. Fuzzy, nice slippers for sitting on the balcony with a coffee and croissant.

Okay, time for me to go forth and get myself together for another fun day! Everyone have an amazing Tuesday!

Yuletide Recs (2025 Part 1)

Dec. 30th, 2025 10:30 am
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22 recs in As You Like It, British Airways, Cabin Pressure, Cadfael, Dogsbody, Enigma, Flower Fairies, The Good Place, Georgette Heyer, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, John Finnemore's Souvenir Programme, Ludwig, The Prisoner, Rosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Dead, Shakespeare & Hathaway, Time Master, Welcome to Our Village Please Invade Carefully & Yes Minister at my journal.

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